Enjoying the Holidays

It is that time again, of gift wrapping presents and cooking all day and all night long.  When friends and family comes to spend time together once more. Telling stories of years ago brings laughter to your face. Holidays are special to us all in our own kind of way. For many kids it is about the presents under the tree. For older generation it is about having the family together, just one more Holiday spent together. All family time spent baking those favorite cookies and meals. But, for others it is remembering the true mean of the Holidays time.  A time to help the lest fortunate in the world. To give and pray that we will stay safe and protected by the many men and women serving to protect us as we enjoy our families.


Let us be thankful for the many blessings that we do have, and who made it all possible to enjoy these Holidays. It is a times to make new memories and laugh at old ones. A time to smile, cry. We all know everyone does not always have a great or even good Holiday, so why not help someone else this year. Show some love extended your love.


We see it all the time now of days  your man saying he is “keeping it real”. But what is that real?Is it he seeing whom ever he wants and still kicking with you? Ladies let me say it is not just her man, it is your man too. Let’s not forget that men can play the field with many women and still poke out their chest like they just won the world’s cup.

What gets to me is that girlfriends can be having a conversation about the one girl’s man, playing with her emotions, dogging her out. In the back of their mind they are sayıng my man is not like that.  Her friend just goes on about how he is no good for nothing, but her man was just trying to hit on another lady a few months ago. Now there is a difference between a lady and a girl.

A grown woman will know her worth and will take the hurt with the pain and get out of the bad relationship. Then again I have come to know there are women who will sweep important matters under the rug and keep dealing with what I call trash. Now, what about the young girl well depending on her maturity level is how she will deal with this kind of guy. Many of them like the drama it brings so they think it is cute, or this is how he shows he cares or loves her. It is shown that they stay in these kind of unhealthy relationships.

So ladies I know you want to believe that he will not do no wrong, He is able to do wrong. Just know this in the back of your mind sometimes it is not where he is at that you should be worried about, but where he wants to be is what your concern. You see when a person is in mentally in a relationship they already is some where else. So you do not have a whole person in your life. Physically yes you have a person in your present but for how long? After a while he is making excuses to stay away from you. Staying at the office late and going to the gym more often then usually. These are the signs of their interests are some where else and with someone else.

I have learn that if your relationship is not built on a solid foundation it is just a matter of time, it can be a marriage just as well. If you can not keep a person attention ina relationship that is just another area going wrong, All this is said to say one important point. Do not be quick to judge another or say or think your man is better then the next one.   Use wisdom when dealing or talking to people. Everyone will not give you sound advice in a important matter.

“Treat a person you want to be treated.”

Intimacy Vs A One Night Stand

Intimacy with someone special can be so beautiful when the feelings are right. When two people know where each other is at. Learning a person is a process all in it self. But when it comes to Intimacy it should not be taken likely.  Now today people have no problem and see nothing wrong with one night stands. But there is something very wrong with it. Men and women are not being honest with their partners or themselves. We live in a world where HIV is everywhere and we can’t tell who is effected or a carrier of the disease.  So play it smart and get check once a year.

Intimacy can be what you make it to be. We don’t have to sleep with one another in order to have intimacy. To be able to be in your presence and enjoy conversation with laughter and holding hands is fine. Women are not always looking to jump in the sack with a man. I see more women working towards goals and improving themselves. So decide what it is you are seeking for yourself and go after it.

In it to long

When you say enough is enough in a bad and unhealthy relationship? When does she realize that her creator created her for so much more then to be hit or yelled at.What about called a liar. What about him, when does he know that he is a king in his skin but only he will ever know this, once he walk into his destiny.

It is 2014 and we are stilling fighting one another and barley loving one another, let alone our neighbors. So where we are missing the point of what He created us to be. We definitely missed the train about a healthy and safe relationship.

Just because we come from a broken family does not mean you will have one. If we pay attention in life to wisdom and wise words, we can make a different path for ourselves and our families. Be
Patient and encourage to step out of the boat

Keep the faith.